A friend writes: "We agreed to work together on this "game", (as we always do). Some wanted to come to experience starving, some to experience a tortured death, some to feel fear."
Here is what I want to say to her:-
This is horrific .... I feel aghast .... that anybody could believe this about another person ....
What do you mean, "wanted"? ....
How can a deeply loving and gentle person say such things? ....
I experience you as a deeply loving and gentle person ....
If you find me being tortured, please don't say, "That's what he wants." There will have been some mistake ....
I really want to hear what you are saying .... At present it just leaves me shaking ....
.... in a kind of painful, shocked, bemusement ....
If you try again, I promise I will try to listen ....
and with love ....
16th January 2002